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Understanding Purple Crying: What Every Parent Needs to Know
Becoming a parent is one of life’s most profound and joyful experiences. But for many, the early weeks and months can also bring unexpected stress—especially when it comes to excessive infant crying. If you’ve found yourself overwhelmed by your baby’s inconsolable crying spells, you’re not alone. You may be experiencing what’s known as Purple Crying.
Let’s explore what Purple Crying is, why it happens, and how to cope with it safely and calmly.
What Is Purple Crying?
Purple Crying is a term used to describe a normal developmental phase in infants, typically beginning around 2 weeks of age and lasting until about 3 to 4 months. It was developed by Dr. Ronald Barr, a developmental pediatrician, to help parents better understand this challenging period.
The term PURPLE is an acronym that outlines the characteristics of this type of crying:
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P – Peak of Crying: Your baby may cry the most during the second month, then gradually less each month.
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U – Unexpected: Crying can come and go for no clear reason.
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R – Resists Soothing: Your baby may not stop crying no matter what you try.
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P – Pain-Like Face: Your baby may look like they’re in pain, even if they’re not.
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L – Long Lasting: Crying can last for hours.
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E – Evening: Crying tends to occur more in the late afternoon or evening.
It’s important to remember that this is normal, and it does not mean there’s something wrong with your baby—or with your parenting.
Why Does Purple Crying Happen?
While it can feel alarming, Purple Crying is considered a normal part of infant brain development. Experts believe it may be linked to neurological changes that occur in the first few months of life.
This phase is not caused by colic, illness, or anything you’ve done or haven’t done. It’s a temporary but often intense stage that most babies go through.
Coping with Purple Crying: Tips for Parents and Caregivers
Dealing with a crying baby for hours on end can be emotionally and physically exhausting. Here are some strategies that can help:
1. Know That It Will Pass
This phase is temporary. Most babies begin to cry less around 3 to 4 months of age. Remind yourself that it’s a stage of development, not a permanent issue.
2. Try Comforting Techniques
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Gentle rocking or swinging
- Pram, bouncer or sling
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White noise or soft music
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A dummy / pacifier
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Skin-to-skin contact
Sometimes these help, sometimes they don’t, and that’s okay.
3. Take Breaks When You Need To
If you’ve tried everything and your baby is still crying, it’s okay to put them in a safe place (like their crib) and step away for a few minutes. Breathe. Call a friend. Ask for help. Never feel ashamed to take a break.
4. Stay Calm and Ask for Support
Talk to your partner, a trusted friend, or a healthcare professional. Join a parenting group. You’re not alone, and you’re not failing.
A Critical Note: Preventing Shaken Baby Syndrome
Purple Crying is one of the leading triggers for Shaken Baby Syndrome (SBS), a serious brain injury that can occur when a frustrated caregiver shakes a baby.
No matter how frustrated or desperate you feel, never shake a baby. Even a few seconds can cause permanent damage or death.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, put the baby down in a safe place and walk away, or reach out for support. It’s okay to ask for help.
Remember: You are not alone. You are not doing anything wrong. And this will get better.
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